Lovey Hughes

Every Man Dies, Not Every Man Lives.

50 Things I’ve Learned In The Year Since My Best Friend Died

Sometimes we have to go through life without the goodbyes that we wanted or deserved.

Source: 50 Things I’ve Learned In The Year Since My Best Friend Died

Brent Beach 2014

“We could have a little double wide planted in an empty field
We could have a big old white picket wrap around on a hill.
Don’t make a difference to me baby, where the wind takes me, long as I’m with you.
We could have something or nothing, still be sitting on top of the world.

Cause when you got love, like we got love
I’m holding on to heaven, holding on to you.
When you got one, like I got one
Anyway you’re looking, it’s a hell of a view”

Top of the World – Tim McGraw

Girls Trip to San Francisco!

Beautiful Inside and OutGirls TRIP!

September 17th – 20th, 2015

This little mini vacation was decided on such short notice! On Wednesday, I called this chick and told her I wanted to get out of town…Of course, she was more than willing to be my partner in crime for the weekend. We planned and executed this trip like no other! We were prepared and organized and it was a blast to see the sights and get away from the Hometown for a few days. I could definitely drive across the country with this chick in my passenger seat. From our music playlists to understanding that it’s okay to sit in silence and be completely content with life. “You didn’t even get on my nerves..” — LOL

We went to South San Francisco to Hometown Heroes Bar and had a few drinks and talked the night away. Relaxed and spent quality time people watching and having small talk. The next day we took a Ferry to Angel Island and went for a little hike to see the beautiful bay of San Fran and an incredible view of the Golden Gate Bridge. We were not prepared for this hike…But we survived! Once we got back to the mainland we took a tour through the Aquarium by the Bay. Which was fantastic! After that, we took pictures with our favorite Celebs at the Wax Museum! Totally Creepy!

Saturday night we stayed near Santa Cruz spent the night riding roller coasters on the Boardwalk and enjoyed dinner on the beach!

This chick is even more beautiful on the inside than she is on the outside. Believe it or not.

Sadie Bug

I am a Princess...Girls Just Want to Have Fun!

She has a heart of gold and will go above and beyond for the ones she loves. While walking the streets of San Francisco we came across many people that seemed to be homeless. Sadie walked into a CVS to get Tylonel (Hangover 😀 ), but she also bought a chocolate bar. I was watching her pay for her things and thought to myself, “EWW Chocolate with a hangover, no thank you”… As we leave CVS we turn the corner and Sadie hands a gentlemen sitting down on the sidewalk, a candy bar…He begins to thank her and smiles… I look at Sadie and say “Sadie, you don’t know him.” She proceeds to say “Lovey, the bible says to feed the homeless.”…. At that point, my eyes water and my body covers with goose bumps. Beautiful.

Can’t wait for our next adventure and mini road trip! Canada? Oregon? Washington? Museum of Tolerance? Who knows….but it will be a new experience and a fun little adventure:)

Love you chick! Stay True…

“Every Man Dies, Not Every Man Lives” – William Wallace

I have been in the dumps these last several months. Looking towards the future and only seeing fog. Trying to chase after a dream that no longer seems reachable. Digging my own grave because I’m constantly picking up other people’s shit and putting it in my own shit bag.

Not too long ago a co-worker noticed I was stressed to the max. She saw something that I was too stubborn and hard headed to realize. She started talking, like she always does, about how I always seem to try and fix other people’s problems, how I always take on too much, and how functioning in chaos and craziness is the “norm” for me. I sat and listened, as I usually do. Usually what she has to say tends to go in one ear and out the other. This time was different. My co-worker is old enough to be my mother and I have a lot of respect for her, not only in the workplace but in a personal setting as well. Anyways, she continues to tell me to “Stop picking up other people’s shit and putting it in your shit bag”. As she rises from her desk I see her pick up her purse and toss it over her shoulder as she hunched her back, all while telling me, “Lovey, this is you. Picking up other people’s shit and putting in your shit bag”. Her back becomes more and more hunched as she pretends to be getting weaker and weaker. She then states “Eventually, your going to be walking around smelling like SHIT because your so concerned about everyone else’s shit you don’t have time to get rid of your own shit!”  Shit, shit, shit! She’s right.

I didn’t understand all the gibberish she was trying to explain to me until she visually spelled it out. I saw myself as she stood there pretending to pick up “shit” and put it in her purse. I realized I spend more time trying to fix other people’s problems, that I forget to work on my own.

My self-worth should be more important than other people’s problems. “I” should come first in MY life. Not to be conceited or self-consumed but I realized that I give 120% of myself all the time,to everyone else, and only 30% do I give for me!

At the drop of a dime I would do anything for my friends and family, without a shadow of a doubt. In doing so, I need to learn self-control and I need to learn how to manage “me” time verses “their” time. We all need to take time to ourselves for self-development, self-improvement, and just plain ol’ quiet time, without any shit!

Not only does other people’s shit get overwhelming but I come to find that it has effected me in ways I am beginning to regret. I’ve become distracted at work, my personal health has been effected and I’m not focused on improving myself each day and doing something towards being that better person, more healthier person, mentally and physically.

So – I have made a promise to myself. As of today, I’m letting everyone else’s shit out of my bag and focusing on my own shit, keeping certain people at a lovable distance, and learning to communicate and use my voice when things get out of hand or too much to handle. I cannot overwhelm myself with things I have no control of.

Until next time – do something today that will get you one step closer to your ultimate goals and dreams.

“Every Man Dies, Not Every Man Lives” – William Wallace 

My Best Friend<3

Kalani and Lovey 2014
Kalani and Lovey 2014

I couldn’t imagine the world without this young man. He’s my brother, my protector, my best friend, my shoulder to cry on, my ear to listen…He’s my person.

Kalani, my 19 year younger brother, is the person I would call if I murdered someone. He would be the one to ask where and when do you need a shovel and a tarp?

I know I have a few friends who would also say the same thing. But over the past 2 years Kalani has grown in ways I can’t explain. He makes me proud everyday! And I always tell him he’s going to be the reason for my grey hair one day.

He’s outgoing, crazy, irresponsible at times, spontaneous, loud, unpredictable, and it drives me CRAZY!

BUT – I wouldn’t have him any other way! When I need him, he’s always there.

When I’m being a butt, he knows what to say to calm me down and he knows exactly what to do.

When I need to be told I’m wrong, he’s the person to do it. When I need to be told I deserve better, he’s the guy whose strong for me.

He’s Kalani – 🙂

People will always have their opinion about others – But I choose to be the light in someone’s bad hour, rather then the darkest.

I love you Kalani – More than you’ll ever know.

XOXO Your Sis.

Beach trip?

Sometimes I think we just need to become one with the earth for a little while. I know this sounds stupid but I’m serious. I think am going mentally crazy. Always over thinking things, and stressing about things I can’t change and stupid little things. I need to grow up pair and suck it up and just BE HAPPY.

Sometimes it’s helps to go for a drive and listen to music, or I like to sit on the beach, alone, and just listen. . .

Whatever it is, it needs to happen before I go A-wall! 🙂

I’m a girl, I know. And I’m crazy, I know:)


When you know, Do you really know?

I feel like I’m going through a mid-life crisis tomorrow will only be my 24th birthday.

I have the job I’ve always wanted. (We can always use more money though) I have the boyfriend that’s the perfect blend of Sweet and Asshole at the same time, I live on the coast, and all my bills are paid. . . I’ve never been one of those girls who always needed something more but recently I’ve noticed I’m now wanting more.

I live in a cottage that consists of a small room and bathroom only. I NEED MORE. I need a kitchen. I moved out of a 3 bedroom house because having roommates was too stressful at times and I knew I wouldn’t have a kitchen but the stability is what caught my eye. And now, I find myself feeling depressed because I miss cooking, I miss having guests over and being a host, and I miss laying on a couch and watching TV without feeling lazy laying in bed.

I am stuck. I don’t want to pay more money for a bigger place and not be able to save anything but I don’t know how long I will last. I’m a woman. And I don’t know what I want to do!

I wouldn’t mind having a roommate but I need someone I can trust when I’m away from home on weekends and for work occasionally.

I’m a mess….

Diamond Rio – One more day …. My favorite

“One More Day”
Last night I had a crazy dream

A wish was granted just for me
It could be for anything
I didn’t ask for money
Or a mansion in Malibu
I simply wished, for one more day with you

One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I’d be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

First thing I’d do, is pray for time to crawl
Then I’d unplug the telephone
And keep the TV off
I’d hold you every second
Say a million I love you’s
That’s what I’d do, with one more day with you

One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I’d be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

Leave me wishing still, for one more day

The 50 most annoying things office workers do!

This is funny and true.


  1. Not washing up mugs

  1. Eating food that smells (particularly eggs)
  2. Microwaving fish
  3. Using speaker phone in an open plan office
  4. Whistling/singing
  5. Asking about/talking about commuting EVERY SINGLE DAY
  6. Boasting about how busy they are (obviously they’re just inefficient time wasters)

  1. Not making the tea when it’s their turn
  2. Standing next to your desk while you’re on the phone
  3. Bad bathroom habits

  1. Talking loudly
  2. Saying ‘good afternoon’ when you’re 5 minutes late
  3. Making farmyard noises while eating
  4. Standing in the way of the lift doors
  5. Having an awkward tea round requirement (milk in first, half hot, half cold water NO)

  1. Spraying perfume/deodorant
  2. Being rude to the cleaners
  3. Typing too loudly
  4. Ignoring a ringing phone
  5. Organising pointless meetings

  1. Not rinsing teaspoons
  2. “Sounds like somebody’s got a case of the Mondays”
  3. Laughing at things that aren’t funny
  4. Being late to meetings so everything has to be discussed again
  5. Fiddling with the air conditioning/heating

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